Intimacy In Your Relationship
"Hello, I have question for you....I have been having problems with intimacy with my girlfriend. When we first started dating we were having sex all the time, but now after being with each for three years that has turn to twice a month. Is it me or is she just not in to me anymore? Please help!- Thomas J."
Hello Thomas,
Intimacy in a relationship is an important factor to keep the relationship going.When you start a relationship with someone it is exciting in the beginning. You go out more, you talk on the phone for hours until y'all both feel asleep, you travel to see each other almost every other day, you laugh, joke, and the sex is amazing.It's easy to have high sexual energy very early in a relationship. However, six months to one year into a relationship, the hormones can start to die down ...Leaving you with a new, often less sexy relationship. That happens in a relationship, but it is up to you to keep that spark alive.
Relationships will never remain the same. The reason why there was so much intimacy in the beginning has to do with excitement. The excitement of getting to know another person, having new adventures, learning about each other and connecting. Now that you all are connected and know more about each other, it is time to start something new. Things like taking vacations with each other, having romantic dinners out or at home, surprising each other with gifts, and being spontaneous. If you do these things, you will be sure to keep the spark alive. Things will not remain the same.
Now lets talk about the sex part of the relationship. You've been having sex with the same person for three years now, of course its not going to be the same. Do not discourage, you can introduce other factors in to your sex life. First start by ask her the things she like during sex, then do it. You can also introduce sex toys, but first ask her how she feels about it. You can also have a theme night; sounds weird, but it works. Example, set up a massage table in the house, hot oils, candles, music, chocolate, a variety of fruits. Do not let her know you are doing it and when she get home y'all ready have everything set up for a romantic night. Trust me she will be down for everything that night.
We all feel tired, bummed out, or just plain not sexy now and again. And although that is totally OK, there are also times when a little sex might be just what the doctor ordered, even if you think you're not in the mood. It’s normal to feel more desire after you get started than when you first begin" to have sex. Just make her feel sexy and she will make you feel like a man in return.
Don't give up man.
-Graham
Hello Thomas,
Intimacy in a relationship is an important factor to keep the relationship going.When you start a relationship with someone it is exciting in the beginning. You go out more, you talk on the phone for hours until y'all both feel asleep, you travel to see each other almost every other day, you laugh, joke, and the sex is amazing.It's easy to have high sexual energy very early in a relationship. However, six months to one year into a relationship, the hormones can start to die down ...Leaving you with a new, often less sexy relationship. That happens in a relationship, but it is up to you to keep that spark alive.
Relationships will never remain the same. The reason why there was so much intimacy in the beginning has to do with excitement. The excitement of getting to know another person, having new adventures, learning about each other and connecting. Now that you all are connected and know more about each other, it is time to start something new. Things like taking vacations with each other, having romantic dinners out or at home, surprising each other with gifts, and being spontaneous. If you do these things, you will be sure to keep the spark alive. Things will not remain the same.
Now lets talk about the sex part of the relationship. You've been having sex with the same person for three years now, of course its not going to be the same. Do not discourage, you can introduce other factors in to your sex life. First start by ask her the things she like during sex, then do it. You can also introduce sex toys, but first ask her how she feels about it. You can also have a theme night; sounds weird, but it works. Example, set up a massage table in the house, hot oils, candles, music, chocolate, a variety of fruits. Do not let her know you are doing it and when she get home y'all ready have everything set up for a romantic night. Trust me she will be down for everything that night.
We all feel tired, bummed out, or just plain not sexy now and again. And although that is totally OK, there are also times when a little sex might be just what the doctor ordered, even if you think you're not in the mood. It’s normal to feel more desire after you get started than when you first begin" to have sex. Just make her feel sexy and she will make you feel like a man in return.
Don't give up man.
-Graham
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